The Path We Chose and How to Deal With It

Hello, Humans.

Have you ever been indecisive? Have you ever been in a situation of which you found it so hard to make a decision? Or, I bet you have ever compare the decision you were taking to another which you didn't take. $1 on me, please, if you answer any of these questions in "Nope". We're just human, anyway.

We're just human anyway. It's natural to have doubt, insecurity, overthinking, or discontent. We're no saint.

One day, I watched a movie so good I would remember the lesson to my deathbed. It was Mr. Nobody (2009), played by Jared Leto. Yeah, Jared Leto is an actor, too. But, don't you dare to imagine him having his 30 Seconds to Mars live performance style in the movie. It ain't gonna happen.

Off the topic.

Well, I will review the movie on my other website, coming soon (please visit caffeinated which is still under development). Overall, this movie was astonishing. It really banged my concept of decision making. Here is the most memorable quotes from the movie:

"Every path is the right path. Everything could've been anything else. And it would have just as much meaning."

--Nemo, Mr. Nobody (played by Jared Leto)

Nemo said it wholeheartedly in his last days. I guessed, in instant way of thinking (and perception), this might crush the common paradigm of decision making. I mean, we've been taught at least one that we have to weight the pros and cons, the advantages and disadvantages of choices, of paths. If every path is the right path, why bother ourselves in confusion when we face crossroads? Why bother ourselves if every path that we take could have just as much meaning?

Crossroad on vast farm-like field with a grey sky. Whoa, this caption tells everything.

Sadly, it didn't work that way.

But this quotes means a lot for us who always feel dissatisfaction of our paths. Of our jobs, partners, houses, or even majors. We're human, Homo sapiens (none of us is Homo neanderthalensis, right?). It's in our gene to desire more and more. That's what had developed our civilizations.

So, I dare to say: Whichever the path that we take, we would feel ungrateful eventually. There is always a "better" path. You would still feeling ungrateful if you always looked up the sky. So, chill the fuck out. Stop looking up the sky continuously. Even the sky has starts above itself.


Every path is the right path. Don't let anybody judge us for the path we take. We can always find happiness and meaning within our paths. Maybe your happiness didn't rely on the salary or the company's name. Maybe it relied on your loose working pressure, or your plenty of free times. Maybe your happiness didn't rely on the major. Maybe it relied on the people you met in that major.

There is always something you can dig. Something you have to find beneath or at the end of the path. I know, it's kind of justification.

But, sometimes, in your worst days, positive justifications are the only things you can hold to stay "alive".

A woman with black coat and fishing hat. Her umbrella is opened up.

Then, what should we do?

Be grateful for our life. Being unfortunate is completely something else compared to your daily grumbles. 

Search for meaning(s). Make justifications for your rainy days. Keep going on.



Have a nice day, Fellow Humans!